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The majority of really odiferous plants get their smell from naturally occurring chemical compounds called essential oils. Although intended to play the duel purpose of antifeedant (which prevents fungus), and herbivory deterrent (which prevents animals and insects from eating the plant), essential oils are supremely useful, and desirable to us humans. Especially to those of us who like a nice cup of tea.

Teas are made by adding hot water to fresh or dried leaves and flowers. For an easier and more potent brew make sun tea: simply put your tea harvest in a wide-necked jar full of water and place out in full sun for a few hours. Here are a list of easy to grow annuals and perennials for a window box tea blend planting:

Lemon balm: A hardy perennial that needs light sandy soil and full sun to partial shade. Lemon flavored leaves can be used to make teas and lemonades- which are said to remedy migraines.

Spearmint: The easiest of all scented perennials to grow, spearmint will thrive in whatever conditions you plant it in. If planting in the garden, make sure to contain its roots within fine, sturdy netting, or better yet, in a pot. Otherwise it will overcome the rest of your plants in a few years. A soothing tea can be made from fresh or dried leaves.

Hyssop: A hardy perennial that needs well drained soil and partial shade. Purported to remedy coughs and asthma. Similar to mint in flavor, but with a hint of liquorice.

Basil: An annual that can be grown in full sun to partial shade in rich soil. Basil tea helps relieve stomach aches.

Borage: An annual plant that flourishes in poor, sandy soils and can grow in full sun to partial shade. The cucumber flavored leaves can be used in salads and summer drinks, like pimms.

Bee balm: A hardy perennial that needs well drained soil and full sun to part shade. Both the flowers and leaves can be used to add a zesty, almost citrus flavor to drinks and herbal brews.

Everyone is Doing the Best They Can

September 1, 2011 by Daniel Collinsworth

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Evening Glow by Care_SMC

I do not at all understand the mystery of grace - only that it meets us where we are but does not leave us where it found us.

Anne Lamott

So easily we become frustrated by the actions (or inactions) of others. Whether with friends, family, lovers, co-workers or complete strangers – when someone does something we find unacceptable, we tend to ascribe undue meaning or chalk it up to a faulty personality.

The truth is, everyone is doing the best they can. Despite moments of weakness, anger or bad judgment, we’re all navigating this life the best way we know how. Every single thing we do is influenced by our current physical/mental/emotional state, as well as a lifetime of experiences – and all of this is unique and intimate to us. What makes sense to you may not make as much sense to someone else, and vice versa.

That person who seems to be in a perpetually grumpy mood – perhaps they suffer from chronic pain. That co-worker who is always criticizing your work – perhaps they were raised by overly critical parents, and don’t know how to be constructive in their remarks. If you look beyond their surface actions and attitudes, I don’t believe you’ll see a sense of malice towards humanity – instead, you might just see someone who is hurting. We would do well to stop taking everything so personally.

Can you see – in your own day-to-day life – things you do that are out of character or perhaps not in line with your core beliefs? Yet you know that deep down, you are a pretty good person who generally wants the best for yourself and others.

Will you be a healing presence in the lives of those who do things you find abrasive, rude or just plain awful? One of the greatest benefits we can give others is the benefit of the doubt. This kind of grace inspires others and softens hearts, especially when it comes unexpected. It also cultivates compassion in you.

A win-win, wouldn’t you say?

Holding Up the Mirror of Awesome

March 22, 2012 by Daniel Collinsworth

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Newness by Daniel Collinsworth

Never lose an opportunity of seeing anything beautiful, for beauty is God’s handwriting.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

Have you ever been around someone who made you feel really good about yourself? Not through words of simple flattery, but through a genuine quality of their presence that just seemed to magnify the good and beautiful aspects of You?

It’s truly inspiring to be in the presence of someone like that. Someone who shines a bright, loving light on your potential, and reflects a glimpse of who you are underneath all the filters of fear and yuck that we tend to see ourselves through.

Now… what if you could be that mirror for others?

Seeing the best in others, reflecting their awesome back to them. Nurturing their brilliance, their gifts and their dreams. Inspiring them to see beyond the yuck, and shift their focus toward owning their beauty and their magnificence. How would that change not only their world, but yours?

Here are a few ways in which you can cultivate a habit of holding up the Mirror of Awesome:


See the Sacred. I wrote about seeing the sacred in one another last week, and it is an essential aspect of holding up the Mirror of Awesome. When you choose to perceive someone as an event — a sacred phenomenon — your whole perception of them transforms. Seeing the sacred in others transcends all surface judgments and acknowledges the brilliant, magnificent Being that they truly are. And what a beautiful gift, to reflect someone’s sacredness back to them. To show them a reflection of themselves that they’ve possibly never seen before.

Be a Wellspring of Encouragement. Being generous with words and acts of encouragement makes others feel seen and validated, and can uplift them to a higher state of awareness. Let it come from an honest place — shallow encouragement doesn’t reach deep into the heart of a person, but sincere, meaningful encouragement is like water to the soul.

Be an Ambassador of Grace. This is simply showing unconditional loving-kindness, even when it doesn’t feel easy to do so. It’s about having an attitude of kindness that transcends the tone of a situation. Grace opens the heart. It shows others that you see their potential, not their faults, and this is healing and inspiring.

As we choose to be mirrors of the highest potential in others, we create a space for healing and transformation — not only in them, but in ourselves. Imagine how the world might change as we begin to see each other in this way.

Don’t worry about what people think of you.
Think about what people experience through you.
- Bridget Pilloud

Seeing the Sacred in One Another

March 15, 2012 by Daniel Collinsworth

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Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.

Rumi

Cultivating a profound, compassionate respect for folks goes beyond feelings and attitudes. We can enjoy a deeper experience of connection with others through a simple shift of focus.

The Phenomenon of Being

I’ve found that when I see someone not as just a person, but as a phenomenon — an event happening right in front of me — my perception of them changes radically. All at once I am aware of this masterpiece of wild energy. I become attuned to a deep river of emotions, wants, needs, passions. I realize that I am experiencing something unique and amazing.

All I’m really doing is looking beyond preconceived labels and judgements, which have a way of dulling our experience of the world. Just a tree. Just a flower. Just a person. We create these labels over time and become jaded to the true wonder of the world around us.

When we shift our awareness of one another to the event of each other, we no longer rely on a “feeling” of compassion / kindness / oneness to arise in us, because now we realize we are witnessing something very special. Something sacred. As we attune to the phenomenon of being in one another, tapping into that wellspring of holiness, it is natural to feel a deeper sense of connection.

It is a joy to experience folks in this way. In my experience with this, I can almost see an aura of energy around a person, circulating and radiating like golden threads and sparks. My sense of empathy increases. I feel that I am truly seeing them, and we are not so different.

As we learn to see the sacred in one another, and cultivate a sensitivity to it, perhaps our world will begin to change. Perhaps we will become less irritated, less troubled by the presence and actions of others as we acknowledge our essential connections. Our common drives.

Our desire for a life of peace and our need to love and be loved, and all the joys and pains that live in-between.

Dealing with Difficult People

March 29, 2012 by Daniel Collinsworth

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We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

Sam Keen

We all come across folks who are difficult, irrational or unkind. Our first instinct may be to mirror the person, countering their negative attitude with one of our own. It’s normal to feel angry, hurt, and frustrated. What’s worse, is the time we spend afterward thinking about how we were treated, perhaps staying emotionally charged for hours after the encounter.

The purpose of this article isn’t to show you how to turn a difficult person into someone easier to deal with, although that can certainly happen. The point here is to offer a deeper look at what is happening within you when you experience a difficult encounter, and to present a few ways of handling it in a more favorable way.

A very useful lesson is taught to us by the Buddha, who was approached by a man who verbally abused him, insulted him and offended him. Buddha was unmoved, asking the man one simple question:

“When someone offers you a gift and you decline to accept it, to whom then does it belong?”

Here we realize that the way someone treats you is their choice — the way you receive and react to that treatment is your choice. Still, there’s an emotional charge that comes along with any difficult encounter, and it can be really hard not to be driven by it. Here are a few things to keep in mind to help you stay centered in the midst of this:

  1. The way someone treats you is a projection of what’s happening inside of them. Even though it feels like it’s being directed at you, it’s not yours, so don’t take it on as yours. We can never know the heart of a person — what pain or stress they themselves might be experiencing in that moment. Getting caught up and identifying with their drama isn’t beneficial. Instead, take a deep breath, create space, and let their stuff be their stuff. You don’t have to get drawn into it.

  2. Negative emotions are always the expression of a need that isn’t being met. And even though you may not be able to fulfill that need, you can still choose to act with compassion. Perhaps you are both frustrated in dealing with each other. Perhaps the other person feels threatened or offended by you (even if that isn’t your intention). You always have a choice: You can take the easy road and let your negative emotions drive you, or you can take a mental step back and become the observer of your emotions. Then, you can act consciously.

  3. Instead of mirroring their negativity, be an ambassador of grace. Forget the idea of “killing them with kindness”, which I believe is nothing more than a passive aggressive way of mirroring their negativity. Instead, offer a word of kindness or encouragement. Offer a sincere compliment. A kind, gentle word can immediately transform a bad attitude and, in some cases, it can transform a life. I can vividly remember times when I was shown grace that was totally unwarranted. It opened my heart, and it changed me.

    Sometimes, showing grace can be as simple as just letting something go — resisting the urge to call someone out, or point out what they’re doing. Letting it go can be immensely transformative for you as well as for them — see, most of the time, folks know when they’re acting out of line. When they see that you are choosing to let it go instead of firing back at them, it clears a space for them to rethink their own behavior. Sometimes, this little bit of space is all they need.

Remember, it’s not about teaching them a lesson or ensuring that they understand the folly of their ways. It’s about you rising above the situation and walking the path of your own growth and development. If your light just happens to have a transformative effect on the other person, well that’s pretty awesome, don’t you think?

Last But Not Least…


None of us are rational and fair 100% of the time. We all have moments when we just don’t have the patience or the mental/physical fortitude to treat others nicely. Ask yourself how you’d like to be treated during times like these, and keep it in mind.

There are many layers to us humans, far more than the ones that bubble up to the surface from time to time. Let’s practice being a mirror of the highest potential in each other. Showing each other that, despite bad attitudes and poor ways of communicating, we still see a heart that beats deep inside, a heart that longs for peace and unconditional love.

Your colour personality is Orange

You are a people person! You love interacting with people and do so with empathy, patience and understanding. You value respect, loyalty and patience and enjoy engaging with people on an authentic and human level as you understand the positive impact you can have on people. You connect with people easily and it’s as rewarding for you as it is for them.

The Real People (an Aboriginal tribe) honour the fact that

“Human Beingness is an Experience of Expression, Creativity and Adventure.”

(cf Marlo Morgan, 1995)

You express yourself in everything you do – How do you prefer to express yourself? In what ways are you creative, and how do you build on your strengths – you don’t need to be artistic to be creative , perhaps you’ve created your own career out of an opportunity which you excelled at?

Sometimes you just have to go for it – life is an adventure and perhaps far more chaotic or unpredictable than we’d prefer. Putting your resources into insuring yourself against all risks kinda misses one of the beauties of being human, which is just experiencing life and rising to whatever challenges you meet along the way. Make the best decision you can at any given time and then trust in yourself to adapt to, manage & overcome whatever difficulties or obstacles you will meet along the way. Hopefully you enjoy your venture, learn a little more about yourself and prosper in the process.

All this takes time, and sometimes a little help. ( University and Career Planning takes time. ) You need to stop, think and take the time to get to know your true self. You also need information in order to choose. By understanding your preferences, informing yourself on the choice you’re making and building on your strengths you’re more likely to find happiness in what you do. Why choose something you’d be interested & good at – you’ll work harder, be more motivated, probably get more opportunities or promotion, maybe even more money. You’re more likely to find success from a strengths based action plan. Self knowledge & Self Management is crucial to success in reaching and attaining your goal.

So choose according to how you express yourself and love your work.

Paul Hawken

Commencement Address by Paul Hawken to the Class of 2009, University of Portland, May 3, 2009

When I was invited to give this speech, I was asked if I could give a simple short talk that was “direct, naked, taut, honest, passionate, lean, shivering, startling, and graceful.” Boy, no pressure there.

But let’s begin with the startling part. Hey, Class of 2009: you are going to have to figure out what it means to be a human being on earth at a time when every living system is declining, and the rate of decline is accelerating. Kind of a mind-boggling situation… but not one peer-reviewed paper published in the last thirty years can refute that statement. Basically, the earth needs a new operating system, you are the programmers, and we need it within a few decades.

This planet came with a set of operating instructions, but we seem to have misplaced them. Important rules like don’t poison the water, soil, or air, and don’t let the earth get overcrowded, and don’t touch the thermostat have been broken. Buckminster Fuller said that spaceship earth was so ingeniously designed that no one has a clue that we are on one, flying through the universe at a million miles per hour, with no need for seatbelts, lots of room in coach, and really good food, but all that is changing.

There is invisible writing on the back of the diploma you will receive, and in case you didn’t bring lemon juice to decode it, I can tell you what it says: YOU ARE BRILLIANT, AND THE EARTH IS HIRING. The earth couldn’t afford to send any recruiters or limos to your school. It sent you rain, sunsets, ripe cherries, night blooming jasmine, and that unbelievably cute person you are dating. Take the hint. And here’s the deal: Forget that this task of planet-saving is not possible in the time required. Don’t be put off by people who know what is not possible. Do what needs to be done, and check to see if it was impossible only after you are done.

When asked if I am pessimistic or optimistic about the future, my answer is always the same: If you look at the science about what is happening on earth and aren’t pessimistic, you don’t understand data. But if you meet the people who are working to restore this earth and the lives of the poor, and you aren’t optimistic, you haven’t got a pulse. What I see everywhere in the world are ordinary people willing to confront despair, power, and incalculable odds in order to restore some semblance of grace, justice, and beauty to this world. The poet Adrienne Rich wrote, “So much has been destroyed I have cast my lot with those who, age after age, perversely, with no extraordinary power, reconstitute the world.” There could be no better description. Humanity is coalescing. It is reconstituting the world, and the action is taking place in schoolrooms, farms, jungles, villages, campuses, companies, refuge camps, deserts, fisheries, and slums.

You join a multitude of caring people. No one knows how many groups and organizations are working on the most salient issues of our day: climate change, poverty, deforestation, peace, water, hunger, conservation, human rights, and more. This is the largest movement the world has ever seen. Rather than control, it seeks connection. Rather than dominance, it strives to disperse concentrations of power. Like Mercy Corps, it works behind the scenes and gets the job done. Large as it is, no one knows the true size of this movement. It provides hope, support, and meaning to billions of people in the world. Its clout resides in idea, not in force. It is made up of teachers, children, peasants, businesspeople, rappers, organic farmers, nuns, artists, government workers, fisherfolk, engineers, students, incorrigible writers, weeping Muslims, concerned mothers, poets, doctors without borders, grieving Christians, street musicians, the President of the United States of America, and as the writer David James Duncan would say, the Creator, the One who loves us all in such a huge way.

There is a rabbinical teaching that says if the world is ending and the Messiah arrives, first plant a tree, and then see if the story is true. Inspiration is not garnered from the litanies of what may befall us; it resides in humanity’s willingness to restore, redress, reform, rebuild, recover, reimagine, and reconsider. “One day you finally knew what you had to do, and began, though the voices around you kept shouting their bad advice,” is Mary Oliver’s description of moving away from the profane toward a deep sense of connectedness to the living world.

Millions of people are working on behalf of strangers, even if the evening news is usually about the death of strangers. This kindness of strangers has religious, even mythic origins, and very specific eighteenth-century roots. Abolitionists were the first people to create a national and global movement to defend the rights of those they did not know. Until that time, no group had filed a grievance except on behalf of itself. The founders of this movement were largely unknown Granville Clark, Thomas Clarkson, Josiah Wedgwood and their goal was ridiculous on the face of it: at that time three out of four people in the world were enslaved. Enslaving each other was what human beings had done for ages. And the abolitionist movement was greeted with incredulity. Conservative spokesmen ridiculed the abolitionists as liberals, progressives, do-gooders, meddlers, and activists. They were told they would ruin the economy and drive England into poverty. But for the first time in history a group of people organized themselves to help people they would never know, from whom they would never receive direct or indirect benefit.. And today tens of millions of people do this every day. It is called the world of non-profits, civil society, schools, social entrepreneurship, and non-governmental organizations, of companies who place social and environmental justice at the top of their strategic goals. The scope and scale of this effort is unparalleled in history.

The living world is not “out there” somewhere, but in your heart. What do we know about life? In the words of biologist Janine Benyus, life creates the conditions that are conducive to life. I can think of no better motto for a future economy. We have tens of thousands of abandoned homes without people and tens of thousands of abandoned people without homes. We have failed bankers advising failed regulators on how to save failed assets. Think about this: we are the only species on this planet without full employment. Brilliant. We have an economy that tells us that it is cheaper to destroy earth in real time than to renew, restore, and sustain it. You can print money to bail out a bank but you can’t print life to bail out a planet. At present we are stealing the future, selling it in the present, and calling it gross domestic product. We can just as easily have an economy that is based on healing the future instead of stealing it. We can either create assets for the future or take the assets of the future. One is called restoration and the other exploitation. And whenever we exploit the earth we exploit people and cause untold suffering. Working for the earth is not a way to get rich, it is a way to be rich.

The first living cell came into being nearly 40 million centuries ago, and its direct descendants are in all of our bloodstreams. Literally you are breathing molecules this very second that were inhaled by Moses, Mother Teresa, and Bono. We are vastly interconnected. Our fates are inseparable. We are here because the dream of every cell is to become two cells. In each of you are one quadrillion cells, 90 percent of which are not human cells. Your body is a community, and without those other microorganisms you would perish in hours. Each human cell has 400 billion molecules conducting millions of processes between trillions of atoms. The total cellular activity in one human body is staggering: one septillion actions at any one moment, a one with twenty-four zeros after it. In a millisecond, our body has undergone ten times more processes than there are stars in the universe exactly what Charles Darwin foretold when he said science would discover that each living creature was a “little universe, formed of a host of self-propagating organisms, inconceivably minute and as numerous as the stars of heaven.”

So I have two questions for you all: First, can you feel your body? Stop for a moment. Feel your body. One septillion activities going on simultaneously, and your body does this so well you are free to ignore it, and wonder instead when this speech will end. Second question: who is in charge of your body? Who is managing those molecules? Hopefully not a political party. Life is creating the conditions that are conducive to life inside you, just as in all of nature. What I want you to imagine is that collectively humanity is evincing a deep innate wisdom in coming together to heal the wounds and insults of the past.

Ralph Waldo Emerson once asked what we would do if the stars only came out once every thousand years. No one would sleep that night, of course. The world would become religious overnight. We would be ecstatic, delirious, made rapturous by the glory of God. Instead the stars come out every night, and we watch television.

This extraordinary time when we are globally aware of each other and the multiple dangers that threaten civilization has never happened, not in a thousand years, not in ten thousand years. Each of us is as complex and beautiful as all the stars in the universe. We have done great things and we have gone way off course in terms of honoring creation. You are graduating to the most amazing and stupefying challenge ever bequested to any generation. The generations before you failed. They didn’t stay up all night. They got distracted and lost sight of the fact that life is a miracle every moment of your existence. Nature beckons you to be on her side. You couldn’t ask for a better boss. The most unrealistic person in the world is the cynic, not the dreamer. Hopefulness only makes sense when it doesn’t make sense to be hopeful. This is your century. Take it and run as if your life depends on it.

Social Anxiety

“I use to have anxiety so fucking bad. I was border line agoraphobic, and in my case it had a lot to do with appearance, I was bullied and made fun of growing up, etc. In social groups, I always felt embarrassed and felt judged. My appearance, attitude, status, gender… I felt right off the bat that people were judging me and that I was a loser. So i acted that way and they responded.

What I’m trying to say here is, anxiety in social situations is entirely created by you. The judgement you think people are giving you is entirely in your control. It’s mostly in your head. Stop it. The first layer of judgement people give, is not how you look, or how you talk, or where you come from. Its how you act and think about yourself. AKA confidence. People intuitively know that only a person knows themself. Thus, when you display low confidence in yourself, your giving people a reason to doubt you and who you are.

Everyone is fighting their own battle. Always remember that. There are so many horrible things going on in the world, and once you truly understand that, social anxiety ebbs away. You can and will recover. Keep it to small things at first. But always remember, the first step is confidence in yourself.”

People don’t remember what you say, they remember how you make them feel.